
As human beings, it is in our nature to prepare for failure. From childhood all the way up until adulthood, we learn that failure is part of life. It is instilled in our minds that we must use failure as a learning experience all throughout life. But what if we as a new culture reversed this level of thinking and actually prepared for success. We would achieve greater things in life because we would not know what failure is simply based around the fact that all things would seem as a success in our eyes.
So what actually is success?
This is a question that gets asked quite often when determining the success of an individual. We all know that success is not based upon the decision of man, but it is based upon the eyes of the beholder. For example, take a look at a man like Warren Buffett. Upon talking to 10 people who actually know who he is, all 10 of those people would probably say he is a success in their eyes. Even though he might be the richest man in the world, is his success based off of his wealth or is his success based off of his character and what he has done for other people. You have to start taking in consideration of what your definition of success is based upon yourself. If you try to measure yourself up with another person, you are only setting yourself up for failure because you will never amount yourself up to that person. Once you change your level of thinking based upon what you strive to accomplish for yourself, you will start believing in yourself rather than measuring yourself up with someone else.
How I Learned the Hard way
Growing up in a pre-dominantly white suburban area, I was seen as the token African American child because there were very few of us who lived in the area. It was very hard for me to fit in because I didn’t understand why they did some of the things that they did. I was molded into a person that always tried to fit in and tried to be liked by everyone. I got taken advantage of in many different instances because I wanted everyone to like me for what they saw me as, instead of who I really was.
It took me about 8 years to change my level of thinking. From all the adversity that I battled, to all the tears that I shed, I soon realized that I had to be myself instead of being somebody that other people wanted me to be. I think a lot of people can relate to me with this because everyone has tried to go out of the box in order to fit in with a certain type of group.
Once you get to the point of realizing who you actually are and what it is that you are trying to accomplish in life, you will begin to set yourself on a path toward success.
So how do you achieve success?
This is another question that gets asked everyday. How do you become successful? There are literally thousands of books, courses, and programs swearing that you will become successful by following certain guidelines or tactics. Yes, some of these things might work, but you have to realize that everyone’s situation is different. Something that worked for one person might not necessarily work for you. So my advice that I would offer to you is to find something that you are passionate about and implement that in some way or another towards your career orientation or goal. The problem that must people seem to face is not taking advantage of what they are good at because it comes naturally to them and they don’t even realize it. Once you realize what you are good at, act upon this and use it to benefit others and see what will happen. You will be amazed!
How to prepare for success
If you ever ask someone how they prepare to become successful. Most of the time you will get some kind of unrealistic answer that is totally unbelievable. If you don’t know how to prepare for success when it happens, then how are you going to be successful? Most of the time opportunities are presented to people on a daily basis and they seem to miss out, just because they were not prepared for the opportunity. In order to be ready for an opportunity when it comes, you must take everything that is negative in your life and make it positive. If you don’t do this, it can tarnish your level of thinking just because your brain is in the mindset for failure. You will always have failure in the back of your mind with everything that you do.
Another thing that I would recommend is to be careful of whom you hang around with and who your friends are. If you hang around friends who are stuck in the mindset of working a 9 to 5 job everyday for the rest of their lives, it is a good chance that you will possible be doing the same thing. So that being said, you might want to change who you surround yourself with because it will cause you to act and think like those that you are surrounded by.
By reading this, I hope you will now change your level of thinking and change your surroundings. Start to think of failure as a success because once you fail, you get that much closer to success. Don’t let failure bring you done, let it bring you up. Once you understand these simple principles that I have outlined for you, you will begin to believe in yourself and have more confidence in your journey toward success.
About Donny Gamble:
Donny Gamble is an Internet Business Strategist that focuses on Internet Marketing Plan implementation for small businesses and Internet Startups. Visit his Work At Home Product Review site at Home Jobs Master.
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One thing I’m starting to see very clearly as an adult and entrepreneur is that there is not much help around when you need it. Maybe I was way off but I thought that there was some compassion in the world of business. I thought that if you showed someone that you have potential to be great and worked hard at it, they may cut you a break. Well, if you believed that myth like I did a couple of years ago, dismiss it IMMEDIATELY cause it just ain’t gonna happen.
The next time you need to partner with a company, take some time out to determine what the company needs. Could the company utilize your promotional skills? Could they utilize the technology you’ve built for your company? Could they use a referral to an inexpensive attorney for a legal battle they’re facing? The whole goal is to try and provide as much value to the potentially partnering company as you can. I guarantee the conversation will go a lot smoother if you can figure out what problem you can solve for the other company. Emails will be replied to, phone calls will be returned and appointments won’t be cancelled.
The financial capital of the world is one of the most highly concentrated places in the world for all professions financial. Investment bankers, portfolio advisors, hedge fund managers and the like all populate this area immensely. People on Wall Street understand and love finance. The New York Stock Exchange is there and all the world’s top investment banks. Columbia University which is an Ivy League institution is right up the street as well. I’ve worked here as well and even on a Thursday night out on the town, bankers are talking about money and how to make more of it.
“Tinseltown” as they call it has been the center of the motion picture industry since it’s very existence. The majority of the companies out there including Miramax, Sony and Dreamworks all are headquartered and employ thousands of people here. Even though competition is steep, a good actor has a much higher chance of getting a break because they are around industry coaches, other actors and big companies who pay already successful actors. It doesn’t hurt that USC and UCLA have some of the top film schools in the country.
As an entrepreneur, I’m always in a hurry to get things done and to move on to the next challenge. I often hear things like “Slow down” and “Take your time, you have a whole life ahead of you”. While I understand the importance of being patient, it doesn’t really seem like the people giving the advice are actually taking it for themselves. When is the last time you’ve ever heard someone say “I’m just going to take my time getting into work today.”? When is the last time you’ve heard an entrepreneur say “I’m just gonna take my time with payroll this week.”? Most likely never and the reason is this, as patient as any of us say we are or want to be, we have no choice but to be impatient and rush.


